by Sharon Bordas

For years, whenever anyone asked my husband and me if we were going to have kids, our stock answer was that we couldn’t afford it. Two freelance writers with a spotty employment history, credit card debt, student loans and a love for fine dining… how could we ever afford to procreate? We just didn’t see it. The standard response we received (especially from the over forty set) was that there was never a good time to have a baby. To which we’d shrug and order a martini to go with our oysters on the half shell. C’est la vie.
And then something changed and we decided to have a kid.
Quite honestly, in the final assessment, our financial stability played little to no role in our decision to take the procreative plunge. It was an emotional choice. Only after we’d gotten ourselves knocked up did we face the financial reality of bringing this little girl out into an oxygen based world and the only thing we knew for sure was that this time we weren’t going to put our medical costs on a credit card… we wanted to leave the hospital knowing we owned this baby, free and clear.
As the pregnancy progressed, my husband and I realized that we were perhaps setting the bar a little low and we began to ask around about other ways to reduce our costs. Here are the five big financial take aways from our foray into parenthood.
1. Exploit Your Health Insurance Options: Not only do you need to look at your health plan, check out your deductible and figure out if your doctors and hospitals are in network or out, you also might want to get creative with your coverage. My husband and I both had individual insurance plans, but at the suggestion of a friend we doubled up, adding me a dependent on his coverage as well. Paying the nominal fee to add me to his plan provided us with secondary insurance and reduced our out of pocket costs.
2. Have Baby Showers: People are really, really nice to you when you have a baby. We’re still overwhelmed by the packages that are arriving on our doorstep. And although we rejected the idea of baby showers and registries at first, we were finally convinced to embrace them, and thank god we did. Believe it or not, not only do you kind of need some of this stuff, but you also have the right to the romance of your baby’s childhood. Five hundred bucks is a lot for a stroller, but can you really put a price on happiness? Decide what’s important to you and let people know about it.
And I don’t care what the Mormons say about family values and Proposition 8, my gay friends were the most generous of the lot. Car seats, strollers, high chairs, baby Bjorn’s, Tiffany rattles… most of the big purchases came from our daughter’s gay uncles. So register for what you really want, have co-ed showers and enjoy.
3. Ask Questions Before Someone Takes Your Blood: Not every test is needed or necessary. Make sure you engage with your doctor so that they don’t just make assumptions and test you for every possible illness or genetic condition known to human kind. Unless you want to be tested for every possible illness or genetic condition known to human kind, which is just fine too. However, in that case you can ask your doctor about the most cost efficient way to do these tests because some of them can run between $200 to $400 bucks a test.
4. Look Around for Deals: Not on babies, silly, on products. Savvy shopping is a must with a kid on the way. Sometimes baby registries come with free diapers or gear. We got six months of free, biodegradable diapers for registering on Amazon. Coupons are available on line for all kinds of important stuff… diapers, formula, Dramamine, etc. Why pay full price for such mundane but super necessary things when you spend your hard earned cash on sleek modern baby furniture and designer socks?
5. Live Off the Government: Those of you with conventional jobs might not need to concern yourself with this, but for freelancers like us, California State Disability was a godsend. As spotty as it may be, my past employment history qualified me for $900 a week for four weeks before delivery and eight weeks after. And then I can apply for Family Leave time on top of it, as can my husband. Now, having been raised a republican, I felt a little weird about this at first. I may not be financially stable, but I’m not poor either. However, I’ve come to believe that I pay into this system, I might as well take advantage of it. And besides, if the banking system can get a bailout, why shouldn’t I? So I suggest you check with your employer, your doctor and the disability office and make sure you file if you qualify.
Our kid is only a handful of weeks old right now, and with the disastrous state of the economy, you could argue it’s the absolute worst time to have a baby. That’s what I’d be telling people if I hadn’t already done it. But having just received a thirty thousand dollar bill for my time at the hospital, all of which was picked up by my two insurance plans, I’d have to say that my viewpoint has changed.
Now I think that the only good time to have a baby is before your health insurance runs out…
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